The birds and the bees

The other day, my inquisitive five-year old daughter and I were walking outside our building after buying her favorite Judge and V-fresh bubble gums. We stayed outside talking while I was carrying her and she was asking me a lot of questions. I don't know what prompted her but she suddenly asked me how she came into being. How she became human and who made her. I paused for a few seconds and thought of how best to answer her so that her five-year old mind can digest and understand it.

I told her that she was in her mother's stomach when she was made and that she only came out after nine months. "Who made me?" she asked in Tagalog. I said I put her in her mother's stomach. She seemed satisfied with my answers and I was hoping she would not ask for more details. When she moved on to another topic, I was relieved.

That night, I told my wife about the incident. I told her that our daughter was asking about the birds and the bees. She laughed and asked me how I answered. And I told her.


This prompted me to google the phrase "the birds and the bees" because I was curious as to why the process of pro-creation is called the birds and the bees.

From Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia

"The birds and the bees" (sometimes expanded to "the birds, the bees and the butterflies" is an English-language idiomatic expression which refers to courtship and sexual intercourse, and is usually used in reference to teaching someone, often a young child, about sex and pregnancy. The phrase is evocative of the metaphors and euphemisms often used to avoid speaking openly and technically about the subject.

According to tradition, the birds and the bees is a metaphorical story sometimes told to children in an attempt to explain the mechanics and consequence of sexual intercourse through reference to easily observed natural events. For instance, bees carry and deposit pollen into flowers, a visible and easy-to-explain metaphor of male fertilisation. Another example, birds lay eggs, a visible and easy-to-explain version of female ovulation. The idiom could date back as far as Shakespeare, from these lines in Act 4, Scene 6 of King Lear:^[1]

Thou shalt not die. Die for adultery? No.

The wren goes to't, and the small gilded fly

Does lecher in my sight"

Here, Lear is talking to Gloucester about adultery, telling him that he must not fear being punished for it, as animals do it all the time and it is therefore a natural phenomenon. The link with the second line and the modern day idiom seems to fit, as both regard the subject of copulation, and particularly, copulation in nature. In this case, the wren represents the birds, whilst the "gilded fly" may refer to bees; which seem to be flies "gilded" with gold stripes.

Word sleuths William and Mary Morris^[2] hint that it may have been inspired by words like these from the poet Samuel Coleridge (1825): 'All nature seems at work ... The bees are stirring--birds are on the wing ... and I the while, the sole unbusy thing, not honey make, nor pair, nor build, nor sing.'"^[3]

Several sources give credit to Cole Porter for coining the phrase.^[4] One of the legendary musician's more famous songs was "Let's Do It, Let's Fall in Love." The 1928 standard contains the lyrics:^[5]

And that's why birds do it, bees do it

Even educated fleas do it

Let's do it, let's fall in love

Famous uses of this phrase come from the work of John Burroughs, a naturalist who lived and worked in the Catskills Mountains. He wrote a small pamphlet called "Birds and Bees: Essays"^[6] in which he explained the workings of nature in a way that children could understand. However, birds and bees are dealt with in separate sections; nowhere are they mentioned together. The phrase also had new meaning when it was adopted by singer Jewel Akens in the song, "The Birds and the Bees".